Scripture: Genesis 25:27 - 28
Rebekah name means flattering. She was daughter of Bethuel, became the wife of Isaac and had twins. Their names were Esau and Jacob. Rebekah now has a family. Did she choose to raise them in a healthy family or in a dysfunctional family?
Barnes commentaries Notes on the Bible:
The brothers prove to be different in disposition and habit. The rough fiery Esau takes to the field, and becomes skilled in all modes of catching game. Jacob is of a homely, peaceful, orderly turn, dwelling in tents and gathering round him the means and appliances of a quiet social life. The children please their parents according as they supply what is lacking in themselves. Isaac, himself so sedate, loves the wild,
wandering hunter, because it supplies him with pleasures which his own quiet habits do not reach. Rebekah becomes attached to the gentle, industrious shepherd, who satisfies those social and spiritual tendencies in which she is more dependent than Isaac. Esau is destructive of game; Jacob is constructive of cattle. Because of each parent showing favoritism toward their sons; a strife or hatred festered in Esau's heart toward his twin brother, Jacob. What happens to the nurturing that Rebecca first showed toward her twins? Why did she let the favoritism grow between the boys?
Rev Ed states, "that Isaac is the least knowledgeable of all the early patriarchs. He is clearly skillful enough to have accumulated a vast fortune, but his spiritual leadership seems to be lacking. Perhaps that early 'false sacrifice' experience with his father Isaac left him a bit distrusting or resentful. Wealthy though he is, he lives within the limitations of a tent, and his spiritual blindness has manifested as a physical equivalent. His mistake is in trusting to his human senses of taste, smell and touch in bestowing his inheritance and his blessing. The lesson is that spiritual choices cannot be effectively made based solely on mortal input.
As a Pastoral Counselor, I will use the above Bible Story to build a case study: Helping to build a healthy functional family God’s way. We will unravel the dynamics that are occurring within the story and explore God’s way of parenting. There are a lot of action going on in this story. We find a lack of communication among the family, hurt feelings, rejection, loneliness, and spiritual malnutrition. Because of these dynamics taken place within the family; we encounter a lot of misunderstanding within the family. Eventually, Rebekah encourages Jacob to leave home, and Esau marries foreign women against the wishes of his parents’. Contemporary mothers we can prevent this type of behavior.
When favoritism is shown among the sibling of any family, there will be some type of resentment among the siblings. Because of Rebekah interference in trying to get the blessing for Jacob her way, a strife arose in the family. This problem caused one son to leave home and the other becomes very defiant toward his parents. We know that God doesn’t need any help in choosing leaders. Jacob was going to become a leader, God’s way. All is not lost because when Jacob leaves his familiar surroundings, God was working behind the scene to help Jacob become the patriarch of the Israelites.
Rev Ed tells us that Jacob—the supplanter—learns two important lessons from his life story. First, finding your good involves stepping into the unknown. In fleeing into the wilderness after the deception he is abandoning everything he thought he knew about himself, and everything he thought he wanted and/or was entitled to. Ultimately you can 'inherit' great spiritual power; you have to claim it for yourself. Through all the challenges, hardships and success—and much like Joseph later in the story—"God meant it for good." He does, in fact, become the patriarch of the Hebrew people—but not by simply stepping into his father's shoes. It requires many life lessons—and it requires that he be healed in terms of his own past.
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